My Favorite Maxims Continued

Continuing the list from coach John Wooden:

 

Do not permit what you cannot do to interfere with what you can do.

Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation.  Character is what you really are; reputation is merely what you are perceived to be.

Love is the greatest of all words in our language.

Much can be accomplished by teamwork when no one is concerned about who gets credit.

Never make excuses.  Your friends don’t need them and you foes won’t believe them.

Never be disagreeable just because you disagree.

Be slow to criticize and quick to commend.

Be more concerned with what you can do for others than what others can do for you.  You’ll be surprised at the results.

The more concerned we become over the things we can’t control, the less we will do with the things we can control.

Don’t permit fear of failure to prevent effort.  We are all imperfect and will fail on occasions, but fear of failure is the greatest failure of all.

Being average means you are as close to the bottom as you are to the top.

The time to make friends is before you need them.

We are many, but are we much?

Nothing can give you greater joy than doing something for another.

Material things are not gifts but apologies for gifts.  The only true gift is a portion of thyself. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

You cannot live a perfect day without doing something for another without thought of something in return.

Do not mistake activity for achievement.

You can do more good by being good than any other way.

Forget favors given; remember those received.

Make each day your masterpiece.

Make friendship a fine art.

Treat all people with dignity and respect.

Acquire peace of mind by making the effort to become the best of which you are capable.

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Happiness Is

I have been doing a lot of reading lately and this last book I read as changed me and opened up my eyes to see the world differently.  I read Way of the Peaceful Warrior written by Dan Millman and it has enlightened me and brought some insight into my world.  We all search for joy and happiness in our life and go to great lengths to acquire what we are after.  Some may think that by getting multiple achievements or degrees will make them happy, while others may think an abundance amount of money will be the way to total bliss.  I believe happiness and total enlightenment comes from within, you have to be happy with who you are, what you have, what you have become, where you have come from and where you are headed.  There is no need to worry about what others think, what achievements you feel you need to achieve or the amount of money you think you need to make.  Happiness starts on the inside with you and you have the power to radiate that happiness to others.  Go with the flow with everything life has to offer you, throw away your concerns, your doubts, your fears and your anger and you will find yourself to be more at peace and life will work itself out.  For those of you who do not know me on a personal level, I have a tendency to  be impatient, slightly uptight and always want to be in control.  I have completely let go everything that is out of my control and just enjoy life and everything around.  I am more aware of the little things surrounding me like the clouds in the sky, the leaves on the trees, how the wind moves the trees, the animals surrounding me and I feel an overwhelming sense of joy and peace.   I am at peace with the world, with myself and with everything around me and feel as I am embarking on the righteous path to happiness.  I know this path is just beginning for me but it feels great to have the insight and new look on the world like I do now.  Happiness is a state of mind.  My happiness is spending quality time with my daughters and watching them grow up, a good hug and kiss from my wife, a good laugh with a friend, any movement, the sun on my back, swimming in a pool, a morning walk, a round of golf, a great meal and an ice cold beer.  Don’t take your life too seriously, laugh more, work less, enjoy the outside and surround yourself with love.  Be happy, be kind, be grateful and be thankful.

Here is the passage from the book which I am quite fond of and I find myself reading everyday to remind myself to stay with the positive mental attitude.

 

There is no need to search; achievement leads to nowhere.  It makes no difference at all, so just be happy now!  Love is the only reality of the world, because it is all One, you see.  And the only laws are paradox, humor and change.  There is no problem, never was, and never will be.  Release your struggle, let go of your mind, throw away you concerns, and relax into the world.  No need to resist life; just do your best.  Open your eyes and see that you are far more than you imagine.  You are the world, you are the universe; you are yourself and everyone else, too!  It’s all the marvelous Play of God.  Wake up, regain your humor.  Don’t worry, you are already free!

Get Happy

Squabble less.  Share more!

Sniffle less.  Snuggle more!

Grumble less.  Giggle more!

Zone out less.  Zoom around more!

Pick less.  Plant more!

Shout less.  Sing more!

Grab less.  Give more!

Tease less.  Tickle more!

Sulk less.  Sparkle more!

Worry less.  Wonder more!

Fearless for evermore!

Be Strong!

Be happy!

A children’s book by Malachy Doyle.  Qualities we teach our children but sometimes forget over time so it is nice to be reminded of the good things to do each and every day.  Make today magical, special and one of a kind because you only get one today.  Make it count!

 

13 Unwritten Parent Rules

I love being a parent and love everything about my children.  I am thrilled and privileged to watch my children grow up and spend lots of time playing and interacting with them.  I love being a role model for them, being a great father, a coach, a teacher and a friend.  I love watching the world through their eyes and watching them light up when experiencing things for the first time.  I am absolutely so grateful to have two beautiful healthy girls and cherish all the times we spend together.  Being a parent is a tremendous amount of responsibility, takes an extreme amount of patience and is quite possibly the best “job” you will ever have.  No matter how much you read, get ready, talk to  and try to prepare for  the birth of your first child, you will never be ready.  You can go to all the classes and read all the books but nothing will prepare you for the madness that will ensue.  I decided it would be fun to give you my take on 12 unwritten parent rules they won’t tell you.  This is just all in good fun and I am open to any other contributions from you parents out there.  Have a great day everyone.

 

  1. You will never have privacy in the bathroom ever again.
  2. Your child will find the sharpest most dangerous thing in every room every time.
  3. The quieter your child is, the more trouble they are getting into.
  4. You will continuously and forever be picking up toys.
  5. Laundry is never-ending.
  6. Every drive way, cross walk or car turn in will be the busiest one ever when walking with your stroller.
  7. Your child will proceed to drop some item in the  busiest cross walk or driveway at the worst time.
  8. You will never sleep the same ever again.
  9. There will be whining  for almost everything you do or do not do, including the kids too.
  10. If you have anything nice, forget about it staying that way.
  11. Forget about enjoying a nice hot meal, your child will have you up 13 times in the 10 minutes it takes you to eat.
  12. Anytime you want to do something for yourself like watch TV, talk on the phone or pay bills your child will become the most needy dependent kid ever.

33 of Life’s Most Powerful Lessons

Just some motivation to help us get our Monday started on the right foot with a positive mind and a grateful, loving heart.  Life lessons like these help us redefine who we are and make us look deeper into ourselves and our hearts to find true happiness for all.

  1. Often those who aren’t the easiest to love are the ones who need it the most.
  2. Seeing children play can make even the bluest day brighter.
  3. Money is not the root of all evil, fear is.
  4. The secret to happiness is the acceptance of yourself.
  5. Happiness is not based on external status, it is an internal state.
  6. Money can’t make me happy, but self-sufficiency gives me the freedom to share myself creatively, without worrying about how I’m going to pay the bills.
  7. Every man has a right to choose his own destiny.
  8. The path is the way.
  9. Coming is going, going is coming.
  10. The hardest is found in the easiest.
  11. Heaven and hell exist here and now, within your own mind.
  12. Life is the largest stage.
  13. Music is one of the most supreme expressions of life. It is art in it’s most transitory form. It is gone within an instant, and therefore, extremely precious.
  14. Follow your gut, you’ll thank yourself later.
  15. Remember what your mother taught you, it came from the most sacred place of love that exists.
  16. Never let an argument last, never hold a grudge, it will make your heart heavy.
  17. Forgive those that have yet to do you wrong, and you won’t have to worry about it should the time come.
  18. Be grateful for this moment, it is all there is.
  19. The source of most of your frustrations and anxiety are the result of living in the future, or the past.
  20. Spend time alone with yourself every day.
  21. Always go with yourself, never against yourself.
  22. You have to be your own best friend.
  23. If you don’t like what someone else says to you, you can walk away. But if you don’t like what you say to yourself, you can’t walk away. Therefore, if you’re going to be with yourself all the time, you might as well be nice to yourself.
  24. The truth shall indeed set you free.
  25. Lies only exist if we believe in them.
  26. Even the most fundamental beliefs about reality are not true in themselves. Our thinking makes them true in our experience.
  27. Your thoughts create reality.
  28. The biggest lie is the lie of your imperfection.
  29. Being kind is more important than being right.
  30. Your heart is your best compass.
  31. Cherish those that you love, you never know if you’ll see them again.
  32. Your beliefs are a filter for your reality.
  33. Love is the supreme expression of life, it is the essence and ground of all creation.

 

6 Years and Going Strong

Over the weekend I had the tremendous opportunity to celebrate my 6th year wedding anniversary with my lovely wife Jessica.  My wedding day is something I will never forget and will always be cherished as one of the best days of my life.  Being married to me means making the ultimate commitment by giving 100% of yourself  to your partner with all your love, hope, trusts, dreams, fears and energy.  Pledging in front of everyone that I will be her man through all the good times and the bad, all the sicknesses and health, all the richness and the poor and all the good and bad in between.  I am honored to be a happily married man and love every thing that goes along with it.  I am blessed to be able to spend my life with someone who I truly love, cherish and enjoy being around and continue to love more and more as each and every day passes by.  Life to me is about finding a special someone with whom you get to spends life’s journey with, your lover, your mate, your friend and your companion all rolled into one.  Enjoying everything together from numerous vacations and kids and dogs and friends and laughs and all the of the madness that constitutes of everyday lives and by having someone to share in all of that with is truly remarkable.  We are blessed to have such wonderful friends who were able to help us enjoy in our special day by coming over and staying the night to watch our kids as we were able to get away.  We had a wonderful day together with massages during the day and a dinner and a hotel room at night.  As the every day madness sometimes consumes us, it is nice to get away with your lover and appreciate one on one quality time.  For those of you who have kids you all know, its nice to have a nice evening sit down dinner and adult conversation without the kids.  We need it, it helps keep al of us sane, that and the fact we were able to sleep 10 hours uninterrupted helps.  I enjoy each and every year with my wife and I know she feels the same and I will not stop loving her, enjoying her and cherishing her for as long as we both live.

To put how I feel into perspective, I have found the help from a beautiful man who was always about love and peace, Mr. Bob Marley:

 

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” ― Bob Marley

Enjoy each day, be grateful for each day and count your blessings for each day you get to spend the person you love.

Allow Yourself

Allow Yourself 
by , © 2009

Allow yourself to dream,
And when you do dream big

Allow yourself to learn
And when you do learn all you can

Allow yourself to laugh
And when you do share your laughter

Allow yourself to set goals
And when you do reward yourself as you move forward

Allow yourself to be determined
And when you do you will find you will succeed

Allow yourself to believe in yourself
And when you do you will find self confidence

Allow yourself to lend a helping hand
And when you do a hand will help you.

Allow yourself relaxation
And when you do you will find new ideas.

Allow yourself love
And when you do you will find love in return

Allow yourself to be happy
And when you do you will influence others around you.

Allow yourself to be positive
And when you do life will get easier.