Dad Advice

We have all heard classic fatherly advice at least one time in our lives, whether it be from our fathers or someone else’s.  Most of the time we just roll our eyes and do not really listen because we may have heard it for the hundredth time but dad advice is a lot more profound and useful than we know.  A lot of the advice is directed and useful for the fellas but girls you should read to because it is quite useful for both sexes.  For those of us who are fortunate to have our fathers around, embrace their wisdom and their advice because you just might learn a thing a two.

 

  1. Go for women you perceive to be “out of your league.”  You’ll surprise yourself
  2. Never have sex with anyone that doesn’t want it as much as you.
  3. Never hit anyone unless they are an immediate threat.
  4. Every hat should serve a purpose.
  5. Never take her to the movies on the first date.
  6. Learn to wet shave.
  7. Nothing looks more badass than a well-tailored suit.
  8. Shave with the grain on the first go-around.
  9. Always look a person in the eye when you talk to them.
  10. Buy a plunger before you need a plunger.
  11. Exercise makes you happy.  Run, lift and play sports.
  12. Brush your teeth before you put on your tie.
  13. A small amount of your paycheck should go directly to your saving account every month.
  14. Call your parents every week.
  15. Never wear a clip on tie.
  16. Give a firm handshake.
  17. Compliment her shoes.
  18. Never leave a pint unfinished.
  19. If you aren’t confident, fake it.  It will come.
  20. You can tell the size of the man by the size of things that bother him.
  21. Be conscious of your body language.
  22. The only reason to ever point a gun at someone is if you intend to shoot them.
  23. Always stand to shake someone’s hand.
  24. Never lend anything you can’t afford to lose.
  25. Ask more than you answer.  Everybody likes to talk about themselves.
  26. Keep a change of clothes at the office.
  27. Buy high quality tools, so you only have to buy them once.
  28. Manliness is not only being able to take care of yourself, but others as well.
  29. Go with the decision that will make for a good story.
  30. When you walk, look straight ahead, not at your feet.
  31. Nice guys don’t finish last.  Boring guys do.
  32. Find your passion and figure out how to get paid for it.
  33. Don’t let the little head do the thinking for the big head.
  34. No matter their job or status in life, everyone deserves your respect.
  35. The most important thing you can learn is personal responsibility.  Bad things happen, it’s your job to overcome them.
  36. The first one to get angry loses.
  37. Do what needs to be done without complaining.  It won’t help speed things up.
  38. Never stop learning.
  39. Always go out into the public dressed like you’re about to meet the love of your life.
  40. Don’t change yourself just to make someone happy, unless that someone is you.
  41. If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.
  42. Luck favors the prepared.
  43. Women find confidence sexy as hell.
  44. Do whatever you want to do in the life, but be the best at it.
  45. No one is on their deathbed wishing they spent more time at work.  Enjoy your life.

Happiness Is

I have been doing a lot of reading lately and this last book I read as changed me and opened up my eyes to see the world differently.  I read Way of the Peaceful Warrior written by Dan Millman and it has enlightened me and brought some insight into my world.  We all search for joy and happiness in our life and go to great lengths to acquire what we are after.  Some may think that by getting multiple achievements or degrees will make them happy, while others may think an abundance amount of money will be the way to total bliss.  I believe happiness and total enlightenment comes from within, you have to be happy with who you are, what you have, what you have become, where you have come from and where you are headed.  There is no need to worry about what others think, what achievements you feel you need to achieve or the amount of money you think you need to make.  Happiness starts on the inside with you and you have the power to radiate that happiness to others.  Go with the flow with everything life has to offer you, throw away your concerns, your doubts, your fears and your anger and you will find yourself to be more at peace and life will work itself out.  For those of you who do not know me on a personal level, I have a tendency to  be impatient, slightly uptight and always want to be in control.  I have completely let go everything that is out of my control and just enjoy life and everything around.  I am more aware of the little things surrounding me like the clouds in the sky, the leaves on the trees, how the wind moves the trees, the animals surrounding me and I feel an overwhelming sense of joy and peace.   I am at peace with the world, with myself and with everything around me and feel as I am embarking on the righteous path to happiness.  I know this path is just beginning for me but it feels great to have the insight and new look on the world like I do now.  Happiness is a state of mind.  My happiness is spending quality time with my daughters and watching them grow up, a good hug and kiss from my wife, a good laugh with a friend, any movement, the sun on my back, swimming in a pool, a morning walk, a round of golf, a great meal and an ice cold beer.  Don’t take your life too seriously, laugh more, work less, enjoy the outside and surround yourself with love.  Be happy, be kind, be grateful and be thankful.

Here is the passage from the book which I am quite fond of and I find myself reading everyday to remind myself to stay with the positive mental attitude.

 

There is no need to search; achievement leads to nowhere.  It makes no difference at all, so just be happy now!  Love is the only reality of the world, because it is all One, you see.  And the only laws are paradox, humor and change.  There is no problem, never was, and never will be.  Release your struggle, let go of your mind, throw away you concerns, and relax into the world.  No need to resist life; just do your best.  Open your eyes and see that you are far more than you imagine.  You are the world, you are the universe; you are yourself and everyone else, too!  It’s all the marvelous Play of God.  Wake up, regain your humor.  Don’t worry, you are already free!

Nine Promises

Nine promises that can bring happiness.

  1. Promise yourself that you will talk health, happiness and prosperity as often as possible.
  2. Promise yourself to make all of your friends know there is something in them that is special and that you value.
  3. Promise to think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best in yourself and others.
  4. Promise to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
  5. Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
  6. Promise to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to greater achievements in the future.
  7. Promise to wear a cheerful appearance at all times and give every person you meet a smile.
  8. Promise to give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
  9. Promise to be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit trouble to press on you.

Perfection?

I was having this conversation the other day while training one of my clients and I was telling her how the last client I trained wanted smaller thighs, the muffin top to be gone and to reduce her back fat.  She told me she was thinking about and willing to go to such extent as to get liposuction to get to her desired body.  Then I started thinking about it, when does it end?  Does that just satisfy her until she finds something else she wants to make smaller?  Then I really started thinking about it and you know what, when it comes to health, fitness, exercise and reaching your desired body type: perfection is unobtainable.  Sure everyone can gain muscle, reduce their body fat, lose some inches, get tighter, get more toned and so on but no one is ever going to be perfect.  Perfection starts on the inside with being happy with what you have and who you are, not by what you see in the mirror.  I guarantee if you asked your celebrities, your super models and your sports stars if they think their bodies are perfect they would all say no.  I bet they all have something or some insecurity they are not happy with.  We all have something we strive for to reach our ideal bodies, that is what makes us human.  Just know, that the perfection you seek comes from the confidence inside of you and being happy with who you are.  I will tell you right now, I am 5’10”, 170 lbs and around 6-8% body fat, am I perfect?  To some yes but to me no and you know what I am okay with that.  Sure I would love to be a little more ripped, have bigger arms like Dwight Howard and have some bigger calves but I am totally okay without it.  I am not going to hurt myself or train myself into the ground to get there either.  Instead, I just accept my body for what God has given, thank him for giving me a fine, amazing work of machinery that runs great, has all my working appendages and is capable of many things.  Take pride in what you have and stop worrying about what you don’t have or what you want.  Yes, if you want something bad enough you can always work a little harder or clean up you diet a little more to help you on your way to get to where you want to be but don’t whine to me about wanting the perfect body without even trying to work for it.  If you want something bad enough, you better work your ass off to try to get it.  I see too many people who complain about how they want this or to get rid of that but they don’t want to work hard and put in the time and effort.  In order to get something you have never had, you have to do something you have never done, so that means get off your butt and get to work.  We are getting lazier and lazier as a country and everyone wants the model body without putting in the work, they just want to be able to just take a magic pill and then “poof” overnight you have the body of your dreams.  Never going to happen.  You have to put in the work.  Keep working until you get there but remember to sit back, relax and admire the process it took to get there.

Perfection may not be obtainable but you know what is?  Having a great attitude, great confidence and being comfortable in your own skin.  Be happy with what you have and be grateful for what you have.  You may not be perfect in your own eyes but I bet there are people out there who think you are.

 

6 Years and Going Strong

Over the weekend I had the tremendous opportunity to celebrate my 6th year wedding anniversary with my lovely wife Jessica.  My wedding day is something I will never forget and will always be cherished as one of the best days of my life.  Being married to me means making the ultimate commitment by giving 100% of yourself  to your partner with all your love, hope, trusts, dreams, fears and energy.  Pledging in front of everyone that I will be her man through all the good times and the bad, all the sicknesses and health, all the richness and the poor and all the good and bad in between.  I am honored to be a happily married man and love every thing that goes along with it.  I am blessed to be able to spend my life with someone who I truly love, cherish and enjoy being around and continue to love more and more as each and every day passes by.  Life to me is about finding a special someone with whom you get to spends life’s journey with, your lover, your mate, your friend and your companion all rolled into one.  Enjoying everything together from numerous vacations and kids and dogs and friends and laughs and all the of the madness that constitutes of everyday lives and by having someone to share in all of that with is truly remarkable.  We are blessed to have such wonderful friends who were able to help us enjoy in our special day by coming over and staying the night to watch our kids as we were able to get away.  We had a wonderful day together with massages during the day and a dinner and a hotel room at night.  As the every day madness sometimes consumes us, it is nice to get away with your lover and appreciate one on one quality time.  For those of you who have kids you all know, its nice to have a nice evening sit down dinner and adult conversation without the kids.  We need it, it helps keep al of us sane, that and the fact we were able to sleep 10 hours uninterrupted helps.  I enjoy each and every year with my wife and I know she feels the same and I will not stop loving her, enjoying her and cherishing her for as long as we both live.

To put how I feel into perspective, I have found the help from a beautiful man who was always about love and peace, Mr. Bob Marley:

 

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” ― Bob Marley

Enjoy each day, be grateful for each day and count your blessings for each day you get to spend the person you love.

Thrive Outside

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Over this past week, I have made a discovery, nothing that is ground breaking but something I have definitely known for quite some time.  Me and my family absolutely thrive when we are outside.  My kids, my wife and myself are all so much happier, cheerier and more alive when we are outside and it doesn’t matter where we are or what we are doing. I love the fact my daughter tells me she wants to go outside and play.  We can go out back and play chase or follow the leader or play in the kitchen or just pretend we are at a zoo.  I love the imagination that comes into play when we are playing outside and I never know what the game is going to be from one day to the next.  Some days we go to the park and we are all about the playground, playing on the swings, the monkey bars or trying to climb up the slides and some days we are making piles out of leaves, sticks and bark.  Whatever it is we do, I love the fact they are outside, they are active and they are connecting with nature.  Generally when we are at the park my kids do not wear any shoes because I want them to feel the sand, the grass and the dirt and I do not want them to have the disconnect with the earth by wearing those bulky padded shoes.  Kids need to be kids and roll around in the grass, get dirty, get sand in the hair and get scrapes and bruises but more importantly we as adults also need to do the same.  I try to not let my age deter me from having a good time and being silly outside.  Often times we let our adult mindedness get in the way of us being a kid again and enjoying the greatness which is outside.  Being outside is extremely good for altering your mood and putting us at peace within ourselves and my kids are prime examples.  With them being outside I swear there are less break downs and temper tantrums and more smiles and laughs.  If we are able to feed my kids outside it is even more of a blessing because they are more engaged around the dinner table, they eat more and they generally seem happier.  It is a win-win in my book.

I am fortunate enough to where I am able to get outside every day whether it be just 30-40 minutes playing with my kids, going for a walk or playing/practicing golf and I love it.  We all need to get outside as much as we can and not take it for granted.  It is always amazing to me how much better mood everyone is in when the sun is out and there really is something to it.  The power of the sun is a beautiful, contagious and fulfilling thing that should ignite every one of us to get outside and enjoy some natural Vitamin D.  We all need to be able to drink in the sun every single day and if we are able to do it you will find yourself in a much better frame of mind.  My goal for you Frontdive fanatics is to make time this week to get outside and appreciate being outside for at least 30 minutes or more each and every day.  I guarantee you will not be sorry and maybe it will become part of your every day routine.  One of the greatest aspects about being outside is that it is very difficult to do without movement.  Being outside makes us want to move our bodies and be free and not tied down to the couch or your desk or your chair.  How many times do you find yourself at work or school looking out the window dreaming of being outside?  I have always been that way and I still am.  After several hours of work and seeing the sun come up and brighten the day, I can not wait to get out there and bathe in the beauty of the world.  I hope I am not alone in this quest to thrive outside and hopefully all of you feel the same as I do because it is genetic and we are bound to be outside and one with the elements.  It is more natural for us to be outside than it is for us to be inside in a controlled environment hooked to some screen.  Get outside, get thriving and give your mind and body what it needs the most: time outside every day.

S.W.E.A.T. Pledge

I am always in constant pursuit of motivating and inspiring articles, poems, videos and whatever else is takes to get us fired up, inspired, thinking a little differently and grateful for everything we have.  We should always be happy, grateful and thankful and we all have a choice on what side of the bed we are going to get up from, the positive side or the negative.  Life is too short to always be on the negative, always worrying, always stressing over the little things that are insignificant.  Happy, positive and full of life are the way we should all be going through life.  As long as you are still living and waking up each and every day, we should all be grateful.  Grateful to be here, grateful to have your health, grateful to have a job, grateful to be able to provide for your family and grateful experience all of the joys life has to offer.

Mike Rowe, the host of the show Dirty Jobs created the S.W.E.A.T. pledge that stands for everything I, and everyone else should believe in.  I believe we all need to print this out and read it everyday and start to incorporate it daily

“THE S.W.E.A.T. PLEDGE”

(Skill & Work Ethic Aren’t Taboo)

1. I believe that I have won the greatest lottery of all time. I am alive. I walk the Earth. I live in America. Above all things, I am grateful.

2. I believe that I am entitled to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Nothing more. I also understand that “happiness” and the “pursuit of happiness” are not the same thing.

3. I believe there is no such thing as a “bad job.” I believe that all jobs are opportunities, and it’s up to me to make the best of them.

4. I do not “follow my passion.” I bring it with me. I believe that any job can be done with passion and enthusiasm.

5. I deplore debt, and do all I can to avoid it. I would rather live in a tent and eat beans than borrow money to pay for a lifestyle I can’t afford.

6. I believe that my safety is my responsibility. I understand that being in “compliance” does not necessarily mean I’m out of danger.

 7. I believe the best way to distinguish myself at work is to show up early, stay late, and cheerfully volunteer for every crappy task there is.

8. I believe the most annoying sounds in the world are whining and complaining. I will never make them. If I am unhappy in my work, I will either find a new job, or find a way to be happy.

9. I believe that my education is my responsibility, and absolutely critical to my success. I am resolved to learn as much as I can from whatever source is available to me. I will never stop learning, and understand that library cards are free.

10. I believe that I am a product of my choices – not my circumstances. I will never blame anyone for my shortcomings or the challenges I face. And I will never accept the credit for something I didn’t do.

11. I understand the world is not fair, and I’m OK with that. I do not resent the success of others.

12. I believe that all people are created equal. I also believe that all people make choices. Some choose to be lazy. Some choose to sleep in. I choose to work my butt off.

Take the pledge, adhere to it and continue to make your life great in all areas of your life.